It’s as if it’s the start of a new stage in my life….

April 14, 2009

That is how I am feeling at the moment…Most of you may know that a week ago a very dear friend of mine passed away after an amazing courgaious and heroic fight with cancer….Lisa was and is the most amazing person you could ever wish to be hourned to have in your life…

I spent most of last week keeping myself busy by baking and playing Mother Hen with everyone…I find that when things like this happen I turn into Mother hen with a wooden spoon and mixing bowl always within reach…I was also able to spend time with Lisa when she came home to her sisters house for the days before the funeral…This I will always be grateful for as after days of denial on Friday night I was able to say my good byes and tell her that i will always miss her properly.

On Friday i received a telephone call from the celebrant saying that Ian had asked if i would speak on behalf of the Treasures parenting forum…I was very honoured.  Along with this Ian had also asked me to help out organising the food and everything for afterwards…Everyone seemed to know that I needed to keep busy.  We had close friends of Lisa’s – Tamara her husband Hayden and amazing kids Toby and Jayda come and stay with us Friday through to Sunday and David got on with them like a house on fire…I will have a seperate post about that tomorrow.

Saturday Richard and Hayden took the 2 boys out to Chipmunks in puke and after going to Manukau Tamara and I headed to the School hall to start seting up for after the Funeral.  We drove down our Drive way to find our front doors open…i knew Richard wouldn’t be home as 5 mins before he had been in Puke.  OMG our double wooden doors had been kicked and jimmed in and our big TV was gone.  Luckly nothing else was taken but OMG I never ever want that feeling again.  I filed a report with the Police over the phone and Richard and our neighbour have boarded up our front door and now we are just waiting to hear from the police.  Everything else was still there thankfully…

2 Hours latter it was off to a very memorable Funeral…I was nervous about my speech but I think i did pretty well and now have had a photo of Lisa and I emailed to me so with that along with my speech i will be working on a very special layout this week.

Off to the hall and some of Lisa’s cousin had done 2 muttons and 7 chickens on the spit and their dad had made the most amazing raw fish…It was sooo good…That along with 4-5 tables of other snacks and everyone was well fed.  David found a little battery powered ride on car and he had so much fun driving around the school hall visiting and saying Hi to everyone.  Lisa would have loved it as kids were her life…he ended the night hanging out with the St John’s junior leaders and having a blast…here was a 3 year old having the best time hanging out with 15-19 year olds and they just loved him.

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8 Responses to “It’s as if it’s the start of a new stage in my life….”

  1. janine said

    Sorry to hear about Lisa Passing. Sounds like you did her proud at her funeral. I get the keeping busy thing and from what I know we all deal with grief in different ways. Hugs Debs. I have been burgled and your right its not a nice feeling to come home too. I am gald that nothing else was taken (although its not nice and no one should ever have to come home to that).

  2. Rochelle said

    I’m so sorry to hear you friend has passed, you ought to be proud of all that you did for your friend and no doubt will continue to do for her family. You are an inspriation and I feel sad that you had to deal with that invasion of your house at such a hard time, it’s an awful awful feeling!! My thoughts are with you 🙂

  3. Michelle W said

    Debs, my heart goes out to you sweetie. I am so sorry that Lisa had to pass away. I watched the close up episode and she was just a beautiful woman and it is just so sad that she has been taken away so early in her life. It sounds like you did an great job ‘being a great mother hen’ and with your role at the funeral. I look forward to seeing your gorgeous layout soon. Take care xx

  4. Hannah said

    I can’t even imagine how tough the last week must have been for you, but I’m SO proud of you for speaking at the funeral and doing so much to help everybody else. You really do have that gift, Debs. Again, I’m sorry about the break-in, but glad that they didn’t take anything other than the TV. Sending big (((Hugs))) your way. Look after yourself … remember to take some time for you in the midst of helping others, because you are important!

  5. Mel said

    How lovely that you were able to support lIsa and her family. Very special.

  6. Penny said

    Man.. what a week for you. 😦 I’m glad the funeral etc went well though, and you’ve been able to keep busy.

  7. Phyllis ( Lisa's mum) said

    Thank you Debbie for everything you have done for Lisa over the last 18 months. I understand how you feel about life seems different

  8. Mrs Frizz said

    Sounds as though you have been an awesome friend to Lisa and her family and I’m sure that she loved you dearly.

    Look after yourself.

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